Things I tell myself, or need to.

  1. People who want to see each other, do. If somebody tells you that they love and miss you but don’t ever try to do anything about it, question their honesty.
  2. Let go of things that you can’t change.
  3. Your problems matter. Your sorrows count, regardless of how much more “legitimate” somebody else’s might seem. You wouldn’t tell somebody not to bother being happy because there’s always going to be another person out there with better reasons to smile, right?
  4. Don’t wait for somebody else to make the first move. If you want to hear from somebody, send them a text message. Ask them to get coffee with you. The first move has to be made by someone, so save yourself the time and make it you.
  5. Never underestimate the power of a handwritten letter.
  6. Use your words. If you like somebody, tell them. If you need help, ask for it. Everyone is just as confused about everyone else as you are. The only way for somebody else to know what you’re thinking is to TELL THEM.
  7. Say “yes” to things that you don’t want your anxiety to stand in the way of.
  8. Say “no” to things that you don’t want to do. You don’t need to make excuses for yourself. “Not wanting to” is enough.
  9. You don’t owe anybody anything, and nothing is owed to you. If you want something, you have to earn it.
  10. Invest in friendships you already have. Platonic dates are the BEST.
  11. Apologise when you need to, especially in situations where you hurt somebody without intending to. "I’m sorry if I made you feel that way" is not an apology. “I’m sorry for making you feel that way, and although it wasn’t intentional, I’ll be careful to do it again” IS.
  12. Don’t dismiss anybody’s feelings. This also applies to your own.
  13. It’s okay to not know what you’re doing, or what you want. Being an adult isn’t about knowing things, just about tricking other people into thinking that you have your shit together.
  14. Like whatever the hell you want to like, and be fiercely unapologetic about it.
  15. You can tell a lot about a person from the way they treat waiters, bus drivers, or anybody in the service industry.
  16. Not having somebody to go to the cinema with is not a valid excuse to not see a film that you want to see. 
  17. Be less careful with the word ‘love’. You love lots of things, and it’s okay to say it. You love your friends, and you love your favourite films and books and bands and televisions shows. Loving people is as okay as loving pizza. It’s actually pretty rad. Say it more.
  18. Get out of the house whenever you can. Read on picnic benches and write in coffee shops. Get up early and walk across the city, just because you can.
  19. Be kind to yourself. You’re a superhero.
  20. Oh, and personalised mix CDs are cute as heck. THE END!

Tread lightly, little girl
But quicken your step
Lest you sink deeper into the earth beneath your feet.
You are not in Wonderland
And the world does not blossom for you
At a mere parting of lashes

Run faster, little girl
But keep your hands balled into fists
Lest your fingers draw themselves across those of another.
You could be so easily pulled
And led into beautiful distraction
At the softest of gazes

Speak loudly, little girl
But love as widely and as deeply as you can
Lest the ground opens to swallow you whole.
You could tether yourself to anything you liked
And maybe even let the violet-eyed boy catch your glances
At the same rate that you caught his